Just a question which puzzles my mind and makes me want to go, hmmm?!!

I haven't updated my blog in quite a few months as you can see but this is a message I sent to someone who shall remain nameless for obvious reasons and to prevent me from getting my ass kicked when we see each other in person again one of these days. It is just one of those rare works I write when I have things on my mind and thought I'd share it here because it's just a rare analytical thing coming from the heart and not just words typed around from a keyboard.


Comments are welcome. Maybe if we all pull ourselves together, we can find the answers I seek to this mysterious question.


And of course, I must mention, I am no expert or professional in this topic so everything here is my own opinion and based on my experiences and things I saw and learned from around me.

So, you were not single for however long, which meant you were in a relationship, correct? After being in said "relationship" for however long, the dude says, "Sorry, I'm not ready to be in a relationship with you so we must break up."

How can one say he/she is not ready to be in a relationship when, in fact, they have already been in it? That's what confuses me.

Also... is being in a relationship that hard? Obviously, I barely have any experience in this subject matter but, how hard can it be to be in a relationship with someone? They meet, talk, become friends, hang out, if there is a connection, intimacy (most of my shitty so-called relationships back in the day mostly started and ended with the latter and there was barely anything of the former but this isn't about my shitty, er, acquaintances.) ensues to a certain degree or whatever then they decide on whether to take things forward and become a "couple."

So, now they are a "couple" and in a "relationship" and do not fuck around with others of the opposite sex. This, from what I understand, is called a "committed relationship." Unless, it is an "open relationship," one should not fuck with others of the opposite sex because that would be considered "cheating." In a "committed relationship", there is friendship, intimacy of nobody else but the two in the relationship and the male one in said relationship does his best to make sure the female is happy and buys her things at random times just because.... and when they are together, makes sure he puts himself before her when it comes to safety and other bullshit around them in this area with lack of common courtesy and common fucking sense! The female, just does what she does and continues to show affection at random times and, well, whatever the other things the females do in the relationship. Surely I can go on about this but this isn't really the point I'm getting at.

So, I don't want to bring this up because I'd like you to get over the bullshit things in your life and move on but it just boils down to....
Why would a man not want to be in a "committed relationship" with an amazingly beautiful female who is getting an education, works, has a killer personality, lovely hair, beautiful smile, doesn't smoke, do drugs, and isn't a stuck up, skanky ass hoe like I see in the lovely bars, malls, and walmarts around here??

You said he was a really nice guy. Coming from a nice guy, why would he let a woman most nice guys would do almost anything to be with but just sit around and dream about it instead?

That is the main question right there which just makes me sit back and go, wtf?! Does he have a secret he is hiding? Is he fucking gay where he has to break it off before you find out? Is there someone else which is why he isn't ready to be in a "COMMITTED relationship?" Would he rather still just be "free" instead of "hooked" to one girl? Sure, there are many more beautiful girls out there but how often do you see ones with the qualities you have I mentioned above?

Anyway.... I can go on and on and come up and add 20 more questions but I guess we'll never find the answer unless you ask him to give you a more detailed explanation besides the bullshit line many have heard before.... "Sorry, I am not ready to be in a relationship, [even though I've been in a relationship with you for a while now, I just don't want to do it anymore. I hope you understand. I'm not going to bother to tell you why, that's for me to know and you to just ponder about and tell all your friends and post it on facebook so everyone can find out what a dumb ass I really am for letting an amazing girl like you go.]"

I wasn't going to bother even sending you a message such as this. I find sending long ass messages like this to girls I barely talk to is a waste of both of our times but all of these thoughts came up so instead of letting them linger on in my analytical head of mine for who knows how long, I'd thought I'd let it all out on you because you started it. lol! j/k. Nah, but seriously, I just get pretty damn confused with the kind of things I see happen to girls like you so I'm just looking for some kind of answer, an answer, like many, I doubt I'll find. But maybe, just maybe, if you ask him to be more specific, we'll both find an answer to this mystery and we can put it to rest but would it be worth opening this so-called "can of worms" again just to satisfy my curiosity? Nope. But I'm sure you'll like to find a "true" reason, whatever it may be so you don't just sit around and wonder why for days to come....

If you read all this by now, respond back with, "You creepy doofus" so I know you read it and didn't just go, "What's this shit! [delete]"

Have a good day, night, or whatever,

Justin - the man seeking to find answers he may never find.